Snoopy,I'm so sorry to hear of your relative's diagnosis.Thirteen months ago I also was given a Stage IV diagnosis,base of toungue-tonsil cancer,mets to left side lymph nodes[1 at 4cm.+3 others smaller].Before and during treatment I did not really expect to survive.In fact this site was my only thin strand of hope on the days I felt well enough to check in.Thank you all so much! But I'm still here and my checkups are great[no cancer].I'm getting to the point that my cancer is not a foucul point-my life is full of kids,grandkid,cats ,dogs and soon school because I plan on living.IT was not a death sentence!ENcourage your kin and be there to hold hands when treatment gets rough find out what you and the drs.think is the best treatment[I had chemo altho my radioligst thougt I might not need it after my chemo dr suggested it]Be proactive and hold on........you are in my prayers,Sue