I think everyone here has replied well to this post and there is little that I can add. I did put up some new pages last week related to statistics, getting a second opinion, and staging and survival, they and the links to them can be found at http://www.oralcancerfoundation.org/facts/stages_cancer.htm
One thing is certain though, and that is life doesn't come with guarantees, absolutes, or warrantees.

Whether my days are good or bad, whether I'm feeling physically well or poor, whether I have just accomplished something that has taken a year to put together like the Paltrow TV spot that I filmed at Showtime/Sony yesterday and I'm feeling like I made some real progress, or I come home to a horrible phone call from a friend who will not make it, I TRY, each day to live in that moment, to enjoy the successes however small, to learn from the emotional and physical pains my own or those of others, and to relish that I am still here, doing something that I feel is important... privileged to share the love of many good friends, the companionship of interesting and knowledgeable people, and the satisfaction that the day has not been wasted. Be they 100 or 1000 days left in my future, the important thing is to live them fully without compromise in an endeavor that is worthy of the time that I have, with people I love. In the end the numbers and statistics mean nothing.