Neil,
I, like Brian, was Stage IV, base of tongue and 3 neck nodes and was treated at MDACC. I am doing fine after 2 years. Who knows what the future holds? The bottom line is that I am enjoying life now.

Candace,
Welcome to the board. I really appreciate your intelligent,informative and objective approach to the situation, not to mention your writing skills and vocabulary. The "everything happens for a reason" scenario is total nonsense to me. I don't want to get into a religious debate here, but I find it refreshing to hear from someone who applies her mind rather than blind faith to the situation that your brother and many of us on this board face.

Danny G.