HI, Annie, one thing that jumped out in your signature was that he had a thyroidectomy. Is he on a medication like synthyroid?. Many of the other things you mentioned are par for the course for months after his kind of treatment. It should start to get better over the next few months. My husband said I was at times an "over achiever" in the caregiving depatment There were times he just needed to be left alone. Amy in the Ozarks