Hi everyone, I've read a lot of posts on here and everyone of you are wonderful and very helpful. My husbands name is John and we have been married for 26 years and have 3 children, only one left at home and he is 19. John was diagnosed with Stage IV, T1, N2b, MO, primary base of tongue on 8/15/06. He had neck rt neck disection on 8/21, they removed his muscle and most of the tumor, but part of it was attached to his carotid artery, so the surgeon did not attempt to try and get it due to the possibility of a stroke. He is scheduled for 7 weeks of radiation with 3 tx of Chemo (Cisplatin). I've never really read anything about cancer until this. I feel like I am in the middle of a nightmare and can't wake up. Somedays I just feel numb and am beginning to like this feeling and that's scary to me. I have talked John into the PEG after reading the posts here to him, so thanks to all of you. He did not want "the feeding tube". He is scared as he was told he would lose his saliva glands and his sense of taste. They will be radiating both sides of his neck, along with the lymph nodes above his collar bone. I find that I cry at the drop of a hat, only broke down one time in front of him. I really am trying to be strong for him, but it is so hard. Everytime I look at him its hurts to know what he will have to go through. He has always been so strong and healthy and the one that took care of me and our children. See, I started crying when writing this. I am also worried about by son who is at home, should he join a support group or get counseling, he has always been so sensitive to everything. I am really looking forward to and need the support that is so evident here. Hope at the end of this I can also help someone in my shoes.