HPV caused cancers still are dependent on genetic predispostions that we do not fully understand. Also remember that HPV can be dormant in your body, or appear without symptoms at various times during your life, for decades without causing noticble problems. That can mean that using my own case as an example, I could have contacted HPV many decades before my marriage, and my subsequent oral cancer could have nothing to do with the fact that at some point in my current marriage, my wife was HPV 16 positive. (She is negative for the virus now, her immune system being able to shed it.)

You do not want to get into this thought process for which there is no absolute answer, and you certainly do not want to be living with guilt or blame in your relationship. Put this out of your mind and concentrate on the positives and the necessary tasks of seeing your husband get through the process. You will have enough emotional baggage to deal with as you both fight this battle - found early or not. You will carry the after affects of being a survivor for years into the future, as fear of resureence and survivorship have their own emotional burdens. But this is an emotional question that you need to let go of as soon as possible, there is no absolute answer.