Lynn,
My husband too was just diagnosed. Our heads are spinning with all of the information. We're only a month into it, and he's just about to start treatment.
Just from my little experience, you need to research, get second opinions and ask questions. Don't be afraid to pin the physicians down for answers. As we found out through this site, you only have one shot at this, so you need to take the time to get the information and make the choices. Hang in there.