Pain can be from an inflammation or even scar tissue pressing on nerves. Being in pain actually is a positive thing as it means that area is functioning with bloodflow. Theres a great many OC patients/survivors who live in considerable pain every single day and have for years with no end in sight for it to improve. Im one of them with surprisingly my shoulder usually being the worst of my pain. Maybe he should see a pain management specialist who has other ideas of things to try that will help alleviate some of his pain??? It sure cant hurt.

Smoking and/or drinking will eventually catch up to him. Its a fact!!! Its only a matter of time so he can continue being in denial, burying his head in the sand or he can get out of bed and do something to have a better live. Working is a great way to help him feel more positive. A new job or career change is always difficult but if you dont try you dont know. Everybody needs a reason to get up in the morning... I know this first hand after my 3rd round of OC left me a different person that couldnt do my job anymore. I lost my purpose in life when I went thru the mandibulectomy and suffered a . very long, hared recovery. Luckily I have some very special people in my life watching out for me.... Brian (OCFs founder) saw something in me and gave me what I didnt know I needed... a new reason to get up in the morning. Your husband needs to get to that point where h sees what he needs to take action to help himself. Thats something Ive noticed ... unfortunately, your husband dislikes change and would rather stay in bed than to initiate changes. Sure its easier to just pull those covers over your head and become invisible to everyone. Unfortunately this is something he must own up to and do on his own... its his choice. His stubbornness isnt doing anything positive for helping his situation.

Scans pick up slices of images so it definitely is possible to miss something. Im pretty sure anything under 2cm gets picked up on scans. Thats something to ask the doc.

Hang in there!!! Things gotta turn around soon but its now a matter of its up to your stubborn husband to see the problem and do whats necessary to fix it. If not for you (I already know you are rolling your eyes reading that!!!), children, pets, etc... he needs to first do it for himself because he wants to.

((((HUGS!!!!!))))


Christine
SCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44
2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07
-65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr
Clear PET 1/08
4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I
surg 4/16/08 clr marg
215 HBO dives
3/09 teeth out, trismus
7/2/09 recur, Stg IV
8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy
3wks medicly inducd coma
2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit
PICC line IV antibx 8 mo
10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg
OC 3x in 3 years
very happy to be alive smile