HPV does take a very long time to manifest itself. If you read the information on the OCF main pages, you will learn that about 80% of the population get the HPV virus at some point in their lives. Most people are able to clear it from their systems without their even knowing that they have contracted the virus, the virus develops into cancer in those people whose bodies are unable to clear it. To try and trace where the virus came from at this point is not helpful and you are not likely to be successful in pinning it down. My husband had had a number of sexual partners before he was diagnosed at the age of 68. It was impossible to figure out who gave it to him or if he ever gave it to someone else. Honestly, when he was diagnosed I felt it was a waste of my energy to blame him or anyone else since it would not change the fact that he had cancer. I spent my energy on managing his medical appointments, his medications and his treatment. It gave me a clear focus over the months and months of caregiving.

I understand your husband’s anger and, probably fear. It’s a way of asking the question “why me?” which many cancer patients ask. If the situation is really difficult, try contacting the spiritual guidance/counseling department at your hospital. They will help both of you with dealing with the diagnosis.

If you go to the very beginning of my post where HPV is highlighted, it will take you directly to the main OCF site where there Islam the info on HPV.