talked with a spouse of a cancer patient at church today. surprised how much she goes through just like I did with the moods, rebellion, etc. I'm not going to live so.....kind of attitude. She broke down in tears when I asked how she was doing. I was asking because she went to same doc as my husband because dentist said spot on her throat looked bad....she's fine after many tests to verify it's something to just keep an eye on. Her husband is having a second round of cancer and he knows he will not survive these types of cancer so he has become more obnoxious toward her.

This is why I ask the questions I ask..might seem odd to cancer survivors but if you have not gone through it (thank goodness), you really do not understand what it's like and how the mind deals with the stress.

Doesn't mean I think these behaviors are acceptable though! No supportive person should be treated badly....but it happens.