Ed, I am so sorry.
I do think that once you get your head around this, as Zenda says, it won't be too bad. We are all creatures of adaptation. You have had to make so many adaptations and adjustments to how you live your life already. Think of this as just 1 more. Life is worth it, I know that you know this.
Think how creative you will be with your Vitamix!
Think how much easier breathing will be. Life without infections and all that goo!
I know that there is no quit in you.
Tammy

Caregiver/advocate to Husband Kris age 59@ diagnosis
DX Dec '10 SCC BOT T4aN2bM0 HPV+ve.Cisplatin x3 35 IMRT.
PET 6/11 clear.
R) level 2-4 neck dissection 8/1/11 to remove residual node - necrotic with NED
Feb '12 Ca back.. 3/8/12 total glossectomy/laryngectomy/bilat neck dissection/partial pharyngectomy etc. clear margins. All nodes negative for disease. PEG in.
March 2017 - 5 years disease free. Woohoo!