Welcome to OCF! Im glad you have found our site to help you with your father.

Here is a list of easy to eat foods. This should be helpful. During rads for OC patients, they will lose their sense of taste, foods will change from being tasty to disgusting seemingly overnight, plus processed foods just taste horrible, maybe even like cardboard. I found everything to have a burnt taste and everything was salty, even water tasted like it was burnt salt water. List of Easy to Eat Foods

This is something I cant stress enough... Every single day the patients MUST push to take in a minimum of 2500 calories and 48-64 oz of water. Since you have mentioned your father already has lost 25 pounds in 3 weeks that tells me alot. It means his body is not getting enough nutrition or calories and the cancer is burning what calories he takes in up. With your fathers body first fighting the cancer and also its treatments, there isnt enough fuel going in to sustain him. Even if a patient is overweight, the doctors still do not want to see weight loss. Your fathers intake MUST change immediately! Ive been thru this myself so I am speaking from experience. If he doesnt begin to get at least 2500 calories and 48-64 oz of water every single day he will soon end up in the hospital for malnutrition and dehydration. A patient in this situation feels absolutely awful. Ive been down that road and know how bad they feel. If he isnt able to take in enough by mouth then a feeding tube will be in his immediate future either a nasal tube or the type put in surgically into his stomach (PEG tube). To get your father back on track I suggest pushing for even higher daily intake such as 3000-3500 daily calories.

I found yoo-hoo to be very refreshing, plus its more calories and a few vitamins too. With a sore mouth and throat, the yoo-hoo will feel very soothing, at least it worked for me. You can also ask the doc for a prescription for magic mouthwash. Have your father swish it around in his mouth for about 30 seconds and spit it out before eating. It will numb his mouth and hopefully enable him to eat. There are several different formulas of magic mouthwash. The one I had was malox, lidocaine and benedryl. Others will have nystatin or other components.

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Stick with us and we will help both you and your father get thru this. Oral cancer is a terrible disease, the treatments are barbaric and recovery seems to take forever. Just remember, with radiation treatments will get progressively more difficult as he goes along so the intake must be turned around right away. Many patients are in denial and get into a habit of playing catch up thinking its ok to skimp today and they can make it up tomorrow. The only problem with that way of thinking is, tomorrow likely will be even harder so tomorrow never comes and the cycle of malnutrition and dehydration begins. You should try to have a good honest conversation with your father and let him know how important he is to you and you are there to help him get thru this but the bottom line is he MUST increase his intake dramatically. If he cant then its time to discuss a feeding tube with his doc.

As a caregiver, it must be horrible watching someone you look up to and love suffer. Your father is fortunate you are there helping him. Remember caregiving is not easy and be kind to yourself too. Take some time every day to walk away and catch your breath even if its only 10 minutes, it helps.

Hang in there. We are here to help you.