Oh dear. I have always tried to protect our 3 sons from all this OC stuff. We have never discussed " having cancer" or it's implications for the future. Yes, they are busy. They are also young and I don't want their early adulthood to be "blighted" by this. I want them out enjoying their lives. I don't want them worrying about us. In some ways, I think we keep them in the dark.
Our health system here in NZ is very different to that of the USA. We "wait" for appointments. It is hard to rock the boat. I guess that I am a bit luckier in that I work in our health system and have always been able to either phone our ENT myself , or get one of my Medical colleagues to push for me. I do this when I am desperate really, because it is just not the done thing. However, I always advise others who are worried to advocate for themselves, to ring the clinic, phone the Nurse Specialist etc. I think your Son did the right thing emailing the Nurse specialist. I think that is part of her job , to be the liaison person for you. I do also understand your reluctance Maureen.
I'm glad that you were able to "talk " about this and both acknowledge your worries. He loves you .
So hoping your appointment is moved up and your worries are allayed soonest.
Take care,
Tammy

Caregiver/advocate to Husband Kris age 59@ diagnosis
DX Dec '10 SCC BOT T4aN2bM0 HPV+ve.Cisplatin x3 35 IMRT.
PET 6/11 clear.
R) level 2-4 neck dissection 8/1/11 to remove residual node - necrotic with NED
Feb '12 Ca back.. 3/8/12 total glossectomy/laryngectomy/bilat neck dissection/partial pharyngectomy etc. clear margins. All nodes negative for disease. PEG in.
March 2017 - 5 years disease free. Woohoo!