Hello Anita. Poor Clark and poor you. Vent here all you like. We get it. I also feel it's better here than letting our " men" know how upset we are. Sometimes we just want life to give us a break and run smoothly.
So, I hope all goes smoothly with Clarks surgery. That he heals well and is home with you in double quick time.
Take care of yourself,
Tammy

Caregiver/advocate to Husband Kris age 59@ diagnosis
DX Dec '10 SCC BOT T4aN2bM0 HPV+ve.Cisplatin x3 35 IMRT.
PET 6/11 clear.
R) level 2-4 neck dissection 8/1/11 to remove residual node - necrotic with NED
Feb '12 Ca back.. 3/8/12 total glossectomy/laryngectomy/bilat neck dissection/partial pharyngectomy etc. clear margins. All nodes negative for disease. PEG in.
March 2017 - 5 years disease free. Woohoo!