Katie - please don't give up - do get a second opinion, and if surgery is required do it. Just because one dr. says he doesn't think it will work doesn't mean another can't do the same surgery with much success. I would save any potential chemo and rads for later if needed. I know the surgery sounds horrible - and debilitating but if it means you can spend the rest of your life watching your children grow up you deserve to try it. As Tammy said her husband is thriving. Hugs, I am so sorry to hear what is going on, and I know I am an eternal optimist but you have so much to live for hon.