Katie,
I'm so sad to read this. Please chase a second opinion, especially on the surgical option.
My Kris had his original tumour recur at the BOT. We were told that he needed a total Glossectomy and laryngectomy , removal of the structures in his neck and a bilateral Neck dissection.
While we were shocked, we soon realised that this was the only curative option there was. It is now 19 months since Kris had this awful surgery and he is thriving.
Please, please get a second opinion.
Tammy