Hi Kathy,

In my opinion, being a caregiver is just as or equally difficult as being the patient. Those of us fortunate to have someone in our lives that help us know full well.

I look at my Marcia and how positive and strong she is and I'm in awe. One quickly gains perspective and realizes that "love" above all else, is by far the greatest blessing in life.

Allow me to share some feelings that might shed perspective on your husband's reaction. I'll reach the halfway point in my treatment next week so I'm still on steroids to help with chemo treatments. I can tell you that my emotions have been on a roller coaster ride! Irritability has been at an all time high!
Little things as stupid as the beeping of the IV pumps or a microwave makes me crazy! Not being able to eat normally is brutal and hearing someone crunch chips or an apple is too much for me to handle. I literally have to excuse myself and leave the room/area. I can't explain it.

Oddly enough at this point I can still taste and ice cream is a favorite of mine. However, the cold causes some radical pain so it's out. Liquids and soft foods are it and they need to be neither too hot or too cold. I have to have everything "Baby Bear" Ha!

It may be something he needs to detach himself from. For me, it's as simple as leaving the room or put in the ear buds and crank some tunes up.

I can tell you it's troubling to me and I'll be seeking some guidance as I go through this both during and afterwards. Life changes forever when you hear the words "You have cancer" and to say it's a difficult adjustment is a huge understatement. I do hope you all find a way to make life palatable as things move forward.

Positive thoughts and prayers.

"T"