I am SOOOOO frustrated with my hubby!!!

His initial surgery was at a smaller hospital 2 hours away . Though the surgeon says "He got it all" he is sending us to see a radiation oncologist. Although the lymph nodes were clear, there may have been vascular invasion.

I want him to go to Mayo for 2nd opinion, evaluation and treatment....he says he will not go anywhere except a small local hospital ie 5 min away. Perhaps he is still in shock/ denial.

Whenever I try to talk to him or suggest he come on here and educate himself about oral cancer he gets VERY annoyed and goes downstairs. I am at a loss as to what I can do