You will not be kicked off this site for asking questions about oral cancer. The OCF forum has a heart and is here to help people, not to turn them away.

You need help! Seek out a therapist or someone to talk with about your problems. Its nothing to be ashamed of at all. Many many people have all kinds of problems they feel are gigantic when their issues are actually very normal. You may need more than a therapist to help you with your problems, maybe anxiety meds wouldnt be a bad idea.

The reason you are here is about oral cancer. Go to an ENT and get yourself checked out. Dont delay as it could be something that is very easily treated and by delaying it could be a terminal disease. You really wouldnt want to die from oral cancer, its an ugly death. Your daughter and grandson would be very sad if you did. There is no timeline anyone here could give you as there are way too many variables. Get checked out and hopefully you will not have this terrible disease.

Best wishes!