Bette

See my other post on your Can't sleep thread.
The advice is the same. But for this one, let me add that in addition to Zoloft and Xanax, we went on line to find the nearest head and neck cancer support group. It's a half hour drive away at a hospital we never used and only meets once a month, but it really made my wife feel less alone. She did worry about scaring the other members since all of them had not had even one recurrence, let alone two, but in a way it let that group face their real fear: the cancer could come back and see that there is still life afterwards. Plus they do talk and cry and all that stuff.
So get the pills and find a head and neck support group.
I am so sorry this has happened to you and Reggie. Life is cruel and unfair sometimes. Still we have to stand our ground and do what needs to be done
Charm