Gary, thank you so much for the link to the book list. It will be a great help to read on the flight out to Vermont and during the quiet times when she is sleeping. I feel now that our biggest friend in this is knowledge, and I am trying to soak up as much as I can. Your outline of the caregivers for her is pretty much in place through the Norris-Cotton Cancer Center in Dartmouth where she has been treated. I will become more familiar with them when I arrive. Also she does have a visiting nurse come daily to her home in Vermont. I will be going with her to all her appointments, as will my parents the first two weeks of her treatment. I arrive after them. I need to know what to expect mid treatment of radiation and chemo. What to do to help her get through. What is comforting ? What is annoying (probobly everything !)?? And it seems no one can really say what to expect, as it changes from moment to moment, patient to patient. I appreciate you all taking the time. -Betty