Thank you all. Yes she does have the PEG tube and has had one round of radiation when she had her tongue surgery. Now 4 weeks after surgery she will have a 2nd round of radiation and Cysplatin chemo, this begins 6/22. She has been trying to practice swalling but complains the new reconstructed tongue is too fat and she really struggles with swallowing anything. Seems to be emotionally better since getting the Ativan. And yes Debbie, I will talk to my own physician about anxiety meds before I make the trip out to Vermont for myself. Dan, she is trying to get on the computer more, and she is aware of this site. My mother actually told me about it. She is a little fearful of reading about the Cysplatin as she is afraid it will scare her and I think she is taking a reprieve from the surgery of pure fear. She thought the first round of radiation was horrible. I will encourage her to get on the board and post if she is able. Thank you all. -Betty