Me too.l. Fer sorry about what you're going through..l it sounds to me like your dad wants to survive since he's going through with all his treatments so I wonder why he's sabotaging his health in the mean time.? I know it's an addiction and as many have said he will have to be the one to decide to stop, it's just sad you're caught up in the middle of the mess. I sincerely hope it's not cancer in his node, and it's just an infection. Take care. And good luck Wednesday!