HI David,

Thanks for the note. Her POA is activated for financial and medical. Her doctors have declared her incompetent to make decisions and that triggered the activation of her POA and placed all decision making in my hands.

Re: the comment made about not extending her life: The ENT stated that the cancer, having spread to lymph glands and lungs would continue to progress. The surgery would be palliative and would focus simply on removing the growth. No chemo or radiation, etc.

My main concern is that my mother most likely has months to live (dementia, congestive heart failure, aortic stenosis, etc) and I am struggling with the value of the surgery and the inherent trauma of the surgery vs. focusing on quality of life and comfort..vs a surgery that could really throw her for a loop.

Thanks so much for the comments. I am very glad I found this forum

Greg