Hi Kelly I am sending lots of hugs for you. My closest friend was diagnosed with oral cancer two weeks ago and I can't do anything but worry can't sleep either. He has lesions on his lip in the corner of the mouth and it's in his cheek... he is only 40. He is having surgery this Friday. Some of these messages scare me so bad but doctor said it hasn't spread but they have no test of any kind said he didn't need rad or chemo. How can they know without doing test? I am a nurse but never had a patient with oral cancer but know how quick it can met. My heart and prayers go out to you. If you need to talk I will listen. I lost my dad on christmas eve of 1999 in a housefire, he was here one day and gone the next. I have had a very hard time dealing with it. If you would like to talk just send me an email.