Dave

As the resident contrarian on OCF, I have always been quite positive about moderate alcohol use post cancer. All of my doctors (ENT, RO, MO & prosthodontist) felt that wine or beer was just fine and did not see that this advice had resulted in their patients having recurrences. Hard Liquor like whiskey was another story, since they felt the higher alcohol content could damage the mouth tissues.
It's an individual choice, with many wanting to be safe and sober rather than sorry, and others like me who balance the minimal risk with the actual pleasure of a little fun. HPV caused my cancer, not alcohol so I'm not worried. Plus I trust my doctors.
Of course, with my feeding tube, I can even do hard liquor but I just stick to wine because while I like a buzz, I'm not interested in being drunk or intoxicated. Beer unfortunately fizzes way too much in my syringe, but a nice cold bottle of Dos Equis each night was one way I avoided getting a PEG tube the first time around and still got enough calories.
IMO you should celebrate with your mates and not let the cancer take any more of your life than it has already.
Charm