Hi guys, I can't really offer any advise on the surgery as my husband was inoperable by the time of diagnosis. But I do want to say hang in there. There are people out there on these boards that would have been where you are and they will give you advise when they see your post. Like Jim said, live for now and ignore the future. You'll soon get the hang of this way of thinking. All the best and you are all in my thoughts.

Wife to Steve 43. DX 5 May 09. T4N2MO SCC tongue, floor of mouth, lymph nodes & jaw bone
No surgery
Teeth removed 06/07/2009
radiation 13/07/2009 x 7wks
chemo 15/07/2009 x 3 Cisplatin
last TX 28/08/2009
25/11/2009 PET-lymph node activity.
08/01/2010 CT Scan-ALL CLEAR
03/03/2010-Peg removed
01/2013 left side of Jaw removed and replaced with pectoral flap.
23/12/2020 scan show lesion in tongue
01/2021 SCC stage 3 base of tongue diagnosed
01/03/2021 chemotherapy started.