Hi Charm! Smart-asses? SMART-ASSES!?! yep, you betcha. The very best kind, too!

You are absolutely right. It is Joel's decision. I am such a control freak. frown I got accustomed to speaking for him when he lost his voice. I've been trying to stop mothering him...but it's a role I'm comfortable with. Thanks for the reminder! smile

I can imagine that people get pretty passionate about PEG feeding. It's hard to go into a situation and trust the professionals' recommendations and then live with the choices. A person has to almost be married to his or her treatment plan. So, defending a choice or a protocol is absolutely understandable--and necessary to have the confidence to deal with the whole thing. No one wants to think they made the wrong choice. It is another piece of the psychological puzzle that I think gets overlooked by the medical community.

Thanks for the input!
Sandy

Ex-spouse MISDIAGNOSED with SCC-HN IVa 12/10. Tonsils out 1/11. 4 teeth out 2/11. TX Erbitux x2, IMRT x2 2/11. 2nd opinion-benign BCC-NOT CANCER 3/11. TX stopped 3/11. New doctors 4/11. ENT agrees with 2nd opinion 5/11. ENT scoped him-all clear 7/11. Ordered MRI anyway. MRI 8/22/11 Result-all clear.