Thanks so much! No he wouldnt go if I go visit him.....he is doing this his own way...that is the problem that we dont know where he is at with things and all of us kids are scattered all over at least 8 hrs away..we all..including grandchildren have told him years ago it wasnt fair to us that we loved him so much that we wanted him to be around a long time..no unfortunately we have found that you cant force medical attention on anyone....when he gets to the point where he is in the bed all the time I will try to get someone from hospice to come in.....he would be mortified......I appreciate you answering and the best to you Christine!