Hi Fletch
You sound like me two years ago, except there was two years between finding the spot and having the biopsy so you are way ahead in the game which is so important we found out. My advise is continue reading/learning all you can to be your wife's advocate. If the biopsy does come back positive go to the best cancer center you can for this type of cancer and start there with treatment. We didn't, went for convience and the dr who told us what we wanted to hear but we didn't know enough to make a good decision. It did not work out the best for my husband. So now we are in a difficult situation. The best advice I would give is follow you gut feelings even if your wife objects which is hard to do sometimes as you want to portray being positive and optimistic to your wife when you are scared shitless. Even if the biopsy comes back "irritated tissue" follow up regularly with your dentist if it doesn't go away. Hoping the weeks go by fast and wishing you two the best.

PS: You are doing the right thing. Each of us handles things differently in this situation. "handling more like her" - that is what she needs to do but trust me it is affecting her - you are doing what you have to do for you too. Your okay.

Karen