Just being with his sister and being able to share experiences with you I'm sure will be good for him. Sometimes the happy or funny memories can really help to remind you of the closeness you have with each other. I know the pain of seeing him so changed - you haven't had a chance to get used his weight loss gradually but things do get better. Try to think about any of the good progress, like the swallow studies which were fine and the positive things that can occur with his planned therapy and rehab in the future. And you've received such good suggestions above. Your brother should certainly benefit from what you've already learned on this forum. When did his treatment end? If you have a chance maybe you could include that or any other info you would like to share in your signature line (like what you see under my message) ? Just go to the top of this page and click on "My Stuff" then scroll down to the very bottom of the page where it says "Signature". And let us know how you and your brother are doing.