I'm sorry but you really can't make people who can eat feel bad. That's just not healthy for them or you. We do feel bad that you can't eat like we do, but how can you expect people NOT to eat to stay healthy themselves? Especially your caregiver. Could you imagine if they didn't eat and how that would affect taking care of you when they themselves don't have the stregnth to take care of themseleves because they feel bad so they don't eat? That's just not right or healty for anybody. I disagree on not eating in front of Ron. He doesn't mind, I cook all the time and he loves it and the smell. My cooking helped him in surviving and getting his weight back when he had Non Hodgkins Lymphoma and as soon as he gets better with his swallowing I hope to get his weight up a bit if not all the way up to where it was. Even his Doc commented on how his weight was back to normal and he said it was his girlfriends cooking. His swelling in his throat is getting better and he is slowly getting better with eating and I apoligize to those who will never be able to eat food again. The nausea thing though is a different story. How long ago was he diagnosed and had treatments? Hopefully the nausea will subside and also there is medication to help with the nausea. what is you mom gonna do to sustain herself while he is there? You can't hide eating. I'm sorry but I don't think it's selfish for us to be able to eat, it's survival and staying healthy ourselves to take care of them. We have to eat.