Hi Dawn (what a lovely name - same as my sister's)

You are in a tough situation but you really need to find out from your Dad what his expectations are about life.

My Alex lost his Mum two weeks ago (cancer even rarer than OC) and it has become very clear that she made a decision not to treat or to tell anyone she was dying. Whilst I don't agree with her decision not to tell, I can see why she did it. She opted for no treatment to arrest the cancer and if the family had been informed, she may have felt compelled to seek treatment for her family's sake rather than go gracefully and quickly which she achieved with her usual style.

She came to Australia early July (to say goodbye to her son as it turns out), returned home and was admitted to hospital early August. She died early October after 8 weeks (or thereabouts) of very effective pain management and after refusing to leave hospital (she said)