Bonnie, this cancer scares the crap out of me too. And I completely understand what you mean that it's hard to believe it when you look at your strong guy. In addition to being scared I get angry, I can't believe how unfair it is and I know that you must be going through some of that too. And then there's that fine line of how much do you vent to your husband because you want to stay positive for him,right???
Use this board, use us for support and use any support you can get on the outside. Your attitude is so good and support will only help that.
On a practical note, you may find it helpful to write down your questions before you go, remember there are NO stupid questions.