 "OCF Canuck" Senior Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Mar 2010 Posts: 126 | Coping in Texas,
Having been a caregiver (and still am) to a very difficult man, I have an idea of how hard this is for you. Cancer has brought out the best and worst in Gordon and myself, and I'm sure this is true for a lot of patients and caregivers. I think there is a control issue and Jim is trying desperately to regain control over his life. Very hard to put up with behaviour like this and you do have to be firm and set boundaries. Gordon and I have had some very distressing fights and have said awful things to each other. Maybe telling Jim how much you love him (and you obviously do, or his behaviour wouldn't bother you so much) and letting him make a few mistakes might help - although wrecking the car is definitely not OK! My heart goes out to you.
Anne
Last edited by Elianne; 09-09-2010 08:33 PM. Reason: afterthought
Anne - CG to Gordon (59), non-smoker/non-drinker. SCC, BOT, HPV 16+, stage 3. Jan./10 - radical neck dissection to remove 48 lymph nodes, 1 node pos. Apr. 23/10 - finished 35 rad. and 3 cisplatin. Jul. 22/10 - PET scan clear.
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