Paula, I am so sorry for the pain and frustration that you are going through. I can't imagine how totally draining this expreience has been for both you and Jim.

Sometimes caregivers can forget to take care of themselves. Just as Jim has been through hell, so have you. Please be easy on yourself and understand that you are doing the very best you can. Hope you can find some ways to release your stress and give yourself a mental break. You are welcome to pm me and I'll give you my phone number if you need to vent out loud.

Dodie

Aunt diag. 2/4/10 with SCC Stage I/II on left side of tongue. Surgery 2/19/10 part. gloss./neck diss. on left side/free flap from chest muscle. TI/II,NO,MO. Clear margins with perineural invasion. Started rads 4/8/10 - 35 treatments, finished 5/26/10.