Susan, My situation is also like your sister's. The ENT wanted to do a 10 hour surgery, break my jaw & skin graft from the wrist. I was soo scared, I just said "OK" to anything. Good thing my sister took notes & asked all the questions. But I met w/the oncologist for needed radiation even after surgery. Thank God for her! She saved me from any surgery. She told me that she can "cure" me w/ radiation & chemo...& she did!!!! Of course I suffer the side effects of the TX, but needed no surgery. I had a mushroom type tumor on the back of my tongue & it spread to the lymph nodes. Radiation zapped it all! So yes a 2nd, 3rd. appointments are good idea!