Hi Lisa and welcome to OCF
sounds like your husband is having a tough time and if he is that means you are too.Its very distressing watching the person you love going through all this crap and yes it will take over your lives for a while,but it will be worth it in the end.Having chemo and rads first sounds like the doctors are optomistic that he won't need surgery because surgery is preferable before radiotherapy due to healing issues with radiated skin,but i would take their opinion about radiotherapy with a large pinch of salt.Radiotherapy can be brutal unless you are very very lucky which some people are,and if i were you i would read the information for new forum members to prepare yourself for the weeks ahead.Of course there is always someone here to help out if you run into problems and hey fingers crossed he will sail through without too many problems.