I didn't read anyone asking "why me" just "why". For those that know the why, alcohol, HPV, tobacco etc...it's a peace of mind thing. I've never cried "Oh sweet baby Jesus, why me!" but I have asked the question, WTF caused this so I stop doing whatever I did.

I totally agree with JP in the fact that Dr's and the medical community spend the majority of their time treating symptoms and conditions rather then getting to the core of the issue or the "why". If there's doubt in that at all, just take a quick trip to your GP and tell him a symptom you are having and see how fast they write you a script to address the symptom and not the cause.

Personally, I never pitied myself for getting this disease. I stood there while my ENT doled out the stage 4 diagnosis and just asked "How did I get this? What are my odds? and how much time do I have?" so I could make the decision to either go through the treatment/surgery or spend the remaining time I had left making the best memories I could with my wife and sons.

What dissappoints me is that most Dr's don't have the sack to tell you upfront and honestly anything really in fear of malpractice suits. Spinelessness annoys the hell out of me.

Good thought JP, and good luck

Eric