hi Teresa,
The weights are a man thing. Martin used to wear several heavy jumpers for his weighings. He lost 2 stones and weighed the same as me before he was convinced he needed a feeding tube.
As for Christmas, the fact you are together is what's inportant. martin managed to get a few things last year, and i got him some little things to open and something for his daughter. He didn't want christmas at all, but on Christmas eve, I couldn't do it, I took out the Christmas tree and decorated it. And found a spot in our then building site lounge. Martin liked it and perked up for the day. This was last year and he is now looking forward to Christmas once again. Hang on in there. You are together.
Cecilia