Teresa my heart goes out to you as you and your family struggle to get through the holiday season without "doing" Christmas in your usual tradition. I know how difficult that is, I was there 2 years ago. Tell your hubby his gift to his family will be his presence and making it through treatment to recovery. Vent as you need to everyone here understands and supports you.

Caregiver to husband Dx. Stage 4 SCC of gingiva with 3 nodes pos. Partial mandiblectomy with bone graft from iliac crest Dec. 2006. IMRT x30, Cisplatin x3. Completed Tx. March 15, 2007. Osteonecrosis & removal of graft & plate Oct. 2007. Recurrence of SCC Dec. 2007. Deceased Jan. 17, 2008.