Hi

So sorry to hear about your recurrence and glad that you have such great treatment options. I am a caregiver worrying about my partner having a recurrence -waiting for tests at the moment. I dont know whether its worse for us, but its certainly different. I wrongly or rightly, feel I have taken responsibility for my partner getting the best treatment possible, because I have read much more about H&Ncancer and have a far better understanding than he does of risks and possible symptoms. I am impatient like your other half and worry like mad, which upsets and irritates him. I can really understand where she is coming from. Sounds to me like you are able to talk more openly about where you are both at than we are. I would celebrate that and have lots of chats about how you are both feeling if I were you.

Wishing you both well,

Cathy