Dear Petey

It is your right to choose, of course. But did you ask your family for their thoughts? You obviously love them dearly and are all very close. At least allow them to make the decision with you - and please be fully-informed of your medical options.

I was diagnosed with advanced Stage 4 cancer over 4 years ago. Now I am well and leading a normal life with six monthly checkups.

Before I began treatment I asked an oncologist what would happen if I refused treatment. His description was very unpleasant. I would recommend having this discussion with a doctor before you make a final decision.

My favourite song is Imagine also. If only ...

Lots of love from Helen (and please call Rob)