Welcome to OCF! Im sorry to read what you are facing. Its not an easy road trying to be caregiver, breadwinner, mother and everything else all at once. You have found a wonderful resource to help get your family thru this.

When I went thru my first round of OC, I was a single mother of 2 teenagers. It was not an easy road at all! I found what worked best with them was to give each one a few responsibilities. My son drove me to treatments and my daughter had household duties like dogs, laundry, etc. I made the assignments fair by having them both take the same amount of time every day. Even though my daughter had many more jobs, it would take her about 2 hours like what it took my son to drive me.

Does your husband see a mental health specialist? If not, ask at the treatment facility what is offered. Im sorry but I dont have any info about how the health system works anywhere but in the US (with only a tiny bit about Canada). You may need to speak to his mental health professional and let them know your husband needs to help take care of himself. They should be able to work with him on that. Maybe there is a program to help him with daily living skills???

Hang in there!!!