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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Has anyone ever "nagged" successfully?
My wife has numerous times. She starts of slowly and if I don't relent then she turns up the heat so I have painfully realized it's better for me to give in quickly than to be mentally tortured and then give in or worse, she does what ever it is herself and I either have to redo it or hear about it forever.
I still fight to the end re keeping more pets but I'm not good at that approach either as we have 8 cats, one rabbit and a big puppy/dog. We are in the midst of her forcing another dog on me right now. In 3 months time she has managed to "legally" take a puppy away from it's owner by soliciting the efforts of our Vet, our local police and the SPCA; obtained free surgery and care form our local vet (FMV $3000+) and has placed him "temporarily" in our home until she finds a suitable owner. IMO only the Pope would qualify as suitable but I'm still resisting with all my frail determination.
If any of you visit us and have pets please have pictures available showing totally healthy and happy animals and notarized endorsements from friends and neighbors.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,940 | Nagging....now theres an art we we females have REALLY made our very own.
Liz in the UK
Husband Robin aged 44 years Dx 8th Dec 2006 poorly differentiated SCC tongue with met to neck T1N2cM0 Surgery and Radiation.Finished TX April 2007
Recurrence June/07 died July 29th/07.
Never take your eye off the ball, it may just smack you in the mouth.
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Joined: May 2008 Posts: 357 | I need lessons in nagging...
Marlene
Marginal mandibulectomy 6/17/08 resulted in DX of Stage I SCC - gingiva (3 mm) right mandible, buccal side. Clear margins. Occasional social drinker. Smoked last cigarette in 1979. Clear pet: 12/08; 7/20/09. Yay!
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 718 | David,
I think its great that you love your wife so much. :-)
What kind of puppy?
M-
Margaret
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C/G: Husband, 48 (at time of dx)
Dx 5/18/07 SCC, BOT, lymph node involvement. T1N2BM0. (Stage 4a, G2/3)
Tx 6/18 - 8/3/07, IMRT x 33 Cisplatin x3 (stopped after 1st dose due to hearing issues). Weekly Erbitux started 6/27/07 completed 8/6/07.
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,940 | Anytime Marlene
I am a bit of an expert if i do say so myself lol
Liz in the UK
Husband Robin aged 44 years Dx 8th Dec 2006 poorly differentiated SCC tongue with met to neck T1N2cM0 Surgery and Radiation.Finished TX April 2007
Recurrence June/07 died July 29th/07.
Never take your eye off the ball, it may just smack you in the mouth.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | I bet you can make them think you are being nice while you chew their rear out too. LOL You have quite the gift of gab Liz and I enjoy it. Have a great day there lady.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Margaret,
A full male Pit about 1 year old but he has been abused and will never be able to have full use of his hind legs due to the surgery to correct the abuse. He is the most lovable big headed dog with a powerful broad chest in the world. Name is Lamont.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Re nagging,
My Office Manager is by far the worst as she will tell me I need to do something, like call a client or look something up for her and if I haven't gotten back to her in like 2 minutes she's in my office saying politely "have you had a chance to...". I will say no and off she will go only to return in another 5 mins or so and somehow work her question into whatever conversation she just started. This will go on until I drop whatever I'm doing and complete her task. I could be talking to the Pope and she would still nag me until I put him on hold.
When my wife and Lesa gang up on me, which is always, I know I am gonner.
I have another female accountant that works for me and she's real nice, pleasant and doesn't nag me one bit. She'll put something on my desk to be reviewed and it could stay there forever and she wouldn't nag me. My kind of woman.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,940 | Is it true that dogs and their owners grow more alike the longer they are together?
Liz in the UK
Husband Robin aged 44 years Dx 8th Dec 2006 poorly differentiated SCC tongue with met to neck T1N2cM0 Surgery and Radiation.Finished TX April 2007
Recurrence June/07 died July 29th/07.
Never take your eye off the ball, it may just smack you in the mouth.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 718 | Hi David,
Sounds like your wife isn't the only one who has taken a strong liking to the dog! I think Lamont is lucky to have landed in your home! :-)
Margaret
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C/G: Husband, 48 (at time of dx)
Dx 5/18/07 SCC, BOT, lymph node involvement. T1N2BM0. (Stage 4a, G2/3)
Tx 6/18 - 8/3/07, IMRT x 33 Cisplatin x3 (stopped after 1st dose due to hearing issues). Weekly Erbitux started 6/27/07 completed 8/6/07.
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