Marvin meet with the rad doctor today and was alittle down after we left. He has had 3weeks and 1 day of rad. The doctor felt his neck and said that the area has gotten softer but didnt seem to have gone down much. So this put both Marvin & me in a down mood. The doc said not to worry it was to early for much to have happened. They will be doing another ct scan next week to readjust the rad beams. They are hoping for the tumor to shrink some to make the changes easyer.But said even if it doesnt they can still adjust the beams to be more intense on certain areas. I know Marvin was upset because he didnt say anything just starred out into space. He finally did ask me what I thought tonight, I said that they first told us not to expect anything until after the treatments were finished. But I have to say that it did upset me also. Marvin was also wondering if he was down because of the meds or just tired from the treatments. I hope to be able to watch him more to see if he is getting depressed. He has never been a down person.

Barb,
I STRONGLY encourage you and Marvin to get some antidepressant meds now, rather than later. They take a couple of weeks to have an effect, and if you are in the throes of depression, those two weeks can seem like an eternity.

I was always an optimistic person too, and the whole treatment ordeal left me profoundly depressed. I don't know how I would have gotten through it without some medical help.

Radiation is cumulative, both in effect, and the intensity of side effects. Don't be too upset that things haven't changed dramatically...they will change.
Be strong!
Wayne

Barb,
Things will change, I was in such a hurry to have my tumor gone it couldn't go fast enough. Be strong the rough time is ahead. Come back to this board and share your feelings we all understand what you two are going through and will go through.
Bob

Completely understand- Bill and I just started counseling today because of the stress and strain this fight for cancer has put on our relationship. We love each other but have always been both physical and mental- so with chemo and radiation, we are challenged in our relationship a lot. I am already on lexpro and so this is our step to help us.