Hey, All, thought this was as good as place as any to vent. A very dear friend of mine lost his 37 yr old son last night to malignant melanoma. he fought as long and as hard as possible, but it went to his brain and bones, he left behind a small daughter. These things happen and we realize how fragile our lives are. What exactly do we say to someone who has lost a child? There are absolutely no words. Truthfully, one of my heroes is Rosie, we just aren`t supposed to lose our kids. When my son was sick last May and I realized that there was nothing I could do to change things, my daughter and I came to the peace that if Nick was going to leave it was his decision.............I`ve read often, "what would you do, if you knew you had only today to live, who would you call and say "I love you" ......thanks all for letting me vent.........I just wish somewhere, somehow, someone finds a cure for this horror.......Love to Dee

Dee,

I truly cannot even imagine the anguish that a parent must go through when they lose a child. I had a friend Danyelle, she was only 25 and she was killed last July in Oregon because she was driving with a drunk driver who lost control of the car and hit a tree. Less than a year prior to that her younger brother only 17 was in a car accident on the freeway got out of the car to wait for the tow truck and sat on the center divider only to have a drunk driver crash into the back of their car and sent him over the center divider to be run over by oncoming traffic and only two years prior to this my friends mom lost her husband. That was her entire family gone within two years. I will never be able to understand why things happen to good people. When her mother called me to tell me what had happened I could not even begin to tell her how sorry I was that she had lost her entire family within two years...What can a person do to comfort somebody in a situation like that? I still think about the pain she must go through everyday and how truly alone she must feel....

Danielle

Danielle, it`s really beyond me too, several years back I read a book by I believe Rabbi Kushner,"Why bad Thing Happen To Good People" I don`t know, maybe we have the strength to deal with it. I have friends with a retarded child, and I think if we look at everything in perspective, we don`t get anything we can`t handle...at least, that`s what I keep telling myself. I believe maybe we are blessed, when we are given the gift of caring for others....Hugs, Dee