Hello everyone, I am new here, I am not a cancer patient but I am the daughter of one, Packer 66 is my father. I just want to say this past year has been so stressful for me, with my father having oral cancer and fighting for his life and going through all of his surgeries also my best friend had what is called Hotchensens Lyphomia, not sure if that is the correct spelling, she was very, very sick we thought for sure we were going to lose her, she was only 32 when she found out she had it and she has two small children, but with 9 months of chemo she survived, the cancer has been gone for a year now and she is back to work and back to her old self. But now with my father all the worrying and stress is back, I am dealing with it the best I can but it is very hard, and not to say I live to far from him so I can't be with him through all of this and that is very hard, but he is doing very good and he has Dee with him and I trust her, she takes very good care of him. So now I found out a couple of weeks ago that my grandmother may have cervical cancer, it really makes me angry, this cancer is horrible and I an so sick of watching people I love get sick from this, it seems like it is attacking everyone I love, how do I cope with it? Because I am at my whits end with this whole thing. To all of you that have survived, you are very strong and very remarkable people, and God Bless. And to all of you that are presently fighting it please just have faith in God and stay strong, don't let this cancer win, you's can beat it. Sorry for this being so long but I just had to get this out of my system, and this is the best place to do that because all of you understand where I am coming from. Thank you, and God Bless all of you's.

Packer 66 Little Girl

the only way i got through this was to put everything in God's hands. he has the plan and for some reason wanted me to get this horrible disease. i have tried to look over the past few months and see the positive results that came from my disease. it's very hard to cope with this, and some days i just want to lie down in bed and never get up. faith is key to keeping strong. never give up hope and try to stay positive. love everyone around you and laugh as much as possible. that helps.

I wholeheartedely agree with the 'laughing' statement above. Im not religious myself but instead take the approach that no one is guaranteed a long life. Anyone of us could die tomorrow of anything. Live each day to the fullest. My mother just got out of internal radiation last week and has had a very rough year. We spend as much time with her as we can and we dont treat her like she has a disease. We joke around with her, laugh, and treat her how we've always treated her.

The more experience with life I get the more I see that some people just dont live until they get a terminal illness. It takes the realization of their own mortality for them to start living.

Christine, both nettypoho and EEKman give great advice. As a former patient and now a survivor, I remind myself frequently that the Lord won't give me more than I can handle, so I handle it. The old "one day at a time" theory works well too. When things look overwhelming, just take it a little bit at a time and you will get through. And please remember that we are always here for you.
Joanna

Hi everyone, and thank you to you's that replied, it is nice to know that there are people out there that care and who understand, so thank you again.

Packer 66 Little Girl

Packers Little Girl I know how you feel I am a caregiver and it seems that when one family member gets cancer the whole family does. I was once told that the world is a stage,and the people merely actors If this is true consider this wouldn't life be better represented as a comedy rather than a sad drama. I think this is so true with all the technology in the world you would think that in comparison that it could cure anything exspecially Cancer but unfortunately its and uphill battle and all we can do is have faith in each other and love the time we have here.

Packers Little Girl I know how you feel I am a caregiver and it seems that when one family member gets cancer the whole family does. I was once told that the world is a stage,and the people merely actors If this is true consider this wouldn't life be better represented as a comedy rather than a sad drama. I think this is so true with all the technology in the world you would think that in comparison that it could cure anything exspecially Cancer but unfortunately its and uphill battle and all we can do is have faith in each other and love the time we have here.