| Joined: Jan 2021 Posts: 5 Member | OP Member Joined: Jan 2021 Posts: 5 | As if surgery wasn’t daunting and terrifying enough, with all the COVID restrictions, his family and I can’t even be at the hospital for his surgery. We are supposed to receive text message updates as his surgery progresses. Then once he in in his room after going through recovery, 1 person can see him for an hour. Then everyday he is in the hospital, 1 person per day can see him for 2 hours, and the time can not be split between multiple people. He is really close with his family. He is concerned that with him not being able to communicating well verbally that he will have to rely on his text to talk on his phone which will make FaceTime or phone calls very difficult. Does anyone have any suggestions? | | | | Joined: Aug 2018 Posts: 345 Likes: 8 Platinum Member (300+ posts) | Platinum Member (300+ posts) Joined: Aug 2018 Posts: 345 Likes: 8 | it was kind of like before covid with the communication stuff. it was odd but it was how they did it. I'm sure covid has made it even worse and less personable and I am referring to University of Iowa. We were there in Feb 2020
Spouse of 58 yr old with BOT cancer Stage 4a HPV16 positive 3 chemo treatments cisplantin 35 radiation treatments 7000 cGy former smoker/chewed tobacco for 38 yrs. 1/2020 diagnosed with cancer near TMJ 4/2020 chemo 5 days every 2 weeks 6/2020 proton therapy 9/21/2020 cancer free
| | | | Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 "OCF Canuck" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | "OCF Canuck" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 | Have any family who can’t get there write letters, send photos photos, etc that he can review frequently.
I remember being annoyed when People tiptoed around so maybe a 2 hour time limit is a good thing - for the patient.
Also, many hospitals have a way for people to send electronic messages-delivered by volunteers. Check it out.
Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)
| | | | Joined: Aug 2020 Posts: 143 Likes: 35 Assistant Administrator Senior Member (100+ posts) | Assistant Administrator Senior Member (100+ posts) Joined: Aug 2020 Posts: 143 Likes: 35 | I went thru surgery during C19 protocols last April. Absolutely nobody allowed in with me the entire time. We managed with texting, emailing, and when i was up for it, a phone call or facetime. I also had the nurses tape a few short videos once i was up for it.
At first, I was pretty nervous about not having a loved one with me. But, honestly, looking back, i think it helped me recover sooner as i was forced to advocate for myself. I had to take notes and write everything down. It wasn't easy, but I recovered quickly and was able to go home about a week early. And, I knew exactly how to take care of myself.
Sidenote, those videos and pictures are precious to me now. It's powerful to see how far I have come with my speech, everything. Also, take journals with you. Write everything down. Feelings, doctor's feedback, meds, questions, etc. I would show the doctor my "20 questions" and make sure he answered them all every morning. I sometimes reread all those notes. Therapy for me then and now.
Something like a boogie board would be helpful. It was hard to speak, but a cheap electronic writing pad was very helpful for communication with the nurses.
OC thriver, Tongue Stage IV, diag 3/12/20, surg 4/1/20, RT compltd 7/8/20
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