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Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 123 | This is our second year without Ken and it will still be hard but I remember just being so numb last year. I know there are a few of you on this board where it will be your first major holiday without your loved one. I just wanted to wish you the best day possible. I hope you find a way to enjoy the day a little bit and be thankful for the time you had with our loved one. I know we talk about Ken all day since he was such a foodie and football guy! It was one of his favorites and we continue to honor him with old and new traditions.
I am thankful for this forum and all of you - it is so nice to have a place to go where others "get it".
Jill..CG to Ken, age 43,mom of 1yr old girl.
DIAG:12/9/10 SCC BOT T4N0M0 HPV+
START:1/3/11 IMRT dailyX35 and 7 chemo
END:2/23/11 PEG IN:1/15/11 Out:4/26/11
CT/MRI 4/25/11-marked improvement CT 6/11 new spots
BX 6/23-cancer present
Total Glossectomy sched 7/20/11
7/19/11 Ken's suffering ended
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Joined: Jul 2007 Posts: 939 | Jill,
Wishing you the best for the holidays..I know that they will be bitter sweet but I hope you can look into your daughter's eyes and see that a part of your hubby lives on to celebrate the holidays and really...everyday.
We are glad that you come back from time to time and let us know how you are doing.
Regards, Deb
Deb..caregiver to husband, age 63 at diagnosis, former smoker who quit in 1997.
DIAGNOSIS: 6/26/07 SCC right tonsil/BOT T4N0M0
TREATMENT START: 8/9/07 cisplatin/taxol X 7..IMRT twice daily X 31.5.
TREATMENT END: 10/1/07
PEG OUT: 1/08
PORT OUT: 4/09
FOLLOWUP: Now only annual exams. ALL CLEAR!
Passed away 1/7/17 RIP Bill
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | What a nice post, Jill!!! Holidays can be very hard on families when they have lost a loved one.
Wishing you the best Thanksgiving that you and your little one are able to have!
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive  | | | | | Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 595 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 595 | Jill, Hope all goes well and have the best Thanksgiving as possible!!! Semper-Fi Bob
Bob age 57, non smoker,non drinker, ended treatment on 11 Nov 2007 and started back to work on 29 Nov 2007. Veterans Day 2012 the Battle was lowered, folded, Taps was played and the Flag buried as I am know a 5 year survivor. Semper-FI !!!
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Joined: May 2012 Posts: 114 | Thanks for this post, Jill! I wish I'd checked in sooner! This Thanksgiving was our first family holiday without my mom... and to boot, we buried my mom's mom the day before! Talk about a rough year! I was doing fine until my brother in laws mom said grace and mentioned my mom. A wave of grief came out of nowhere and I lost it. My moms absence was just SO obvious, and nobody had mentioned her until then. It was so appreciated, but so very sad for me too. Her gravestone was just put in last week too so the emotions have been flowing...
I'm not sure I'm ready for December. My first birthday w/out her is Dec 11; she always made it as special as possible to make up for it being 2 weeks before xmas. And I can't even begin to think about xmas...
I hope you and your family had a great Thanksgiving!
Amy CG to mom Janet - diag w/ early SCC 8/11-surg w/ rad neck dissect & graft from arm/thigh 9/11-evid in nodes tx 6 wks rads (5/wk) w/cistplatin (1/wk for 6 wks) began 11/11-wk or 2 break 12/11 due to severe side effects-done 1/12- 3/23/12 mets to liver lung bone-hospice 4/7/12-lost fight 4/22/12
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